Many men are wired to be natural problem solvers, which is why the overthinking and analysis that many women do over problems doesn’t make a whole lot of sense to men. And it’s also why many men take so quickly to their role as a father. From the first moment your baby comes to you and needs you to fix their toy, a father’s heart swells from being needed. And, as the years go on, many kids see their dads as a mixture of Superman and Bob the Builder who can fix any problem they have, and Dad just loves that.
However, as kids get older and their problems get to be more sophisticated, Dad might not be able to fix everything, nor should he. There comes a time, whether a problem is emotional, financial or practical in nature, when a child must learn to make her own decisions and solve her own problems. You may think you’re helping your kids to solve all of their problems, Dad, and in the beginning you certainly are. But eventually you’ll stop your child from becoming an independent thinker who can resolve their own issues and that won’t do them any favors. It will be extremely difficult to sit by and watch your child make mistakes, and harder still not to help clean up after those mistakes. But think of it as the ultimate problem solving for your child, letting them learn the hard way to help themselves.